We all will deal with grief at one stage in our lives. When faced with the loss of a loved one, either a close family member or friend, dealing with grief can take over your life. Everyone will have a time of grieving, but it is going to be different for every individual. Some will move through it rapidly. For the others, they stay stuck there and grief dominates their life for many years. Some have intense feelings that lead to physical symptoms like sleepless nights and a lack of appetite. Others will find their symptoms to be a bit mild like the occasional attack. The intensity of emotions as well as the time taken to grieve has nothing to do with how close you were to the deceased person. It’s a lot more to do with how balanced and healthy you’re on the psychological, physical and spiritual planes.
Most of the longstanding or intensely felt grief emanates from unresolved grief in the past. It becomes a pattern that is repeated. It is as if you are being given chances to heal your grief in the hope that one day you will be able to deal with it. The grief comes from a perception of grief, a feeling of emptiness that the one you loved filled your life. This unfamiliar scenario can cause you to feel sad and lonely.
Grief normally has five stages. The first one is when one goes into shock and denial. Next, these are followed by rage against the loved one for leaving you or may be against God for making you go through such a trying time. The third stage may be bargaining which is then followed by depression or deep sadness with the final stage being acceptance.
Grief is a means of letting go. It allows you to go deeper to find the cause of your issues. However, for some, they may not be able to let go of the pain. They cannot be disloyal to the memory of their dearly departed, and they fear letting go. Dealing with grief becomes this never ending obstacle to moving forward. Society as a whole does maybe not provide help that is enough in terms of acceptance of grief and the holistic and wholesome allowance. Family members and friends, while meaning well, become impatient with you and may want one to get over it swiftly.
Quick fixes are not speedy in any way, and they do not aid one to deal with the root problem. This means that the core issue festers and grows although concealed under the veil of the quick fix. When trying to deal with grief in a curative way, it is best to accept it and know that it is not a permanent state but just a process and that you will come through it.
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